We all lie. Truth. The issue is can we honestly verify a marketable difference between the two states? From my introductory college psychology textbook there was a brief remark that one shouldn’t trust any, or all self-reporting data. Simply because of the implicit desire to lie about oneself to maintain a ego, and ones own self esteem.
Perhaps true, but I personally think at some level, maybe the more maturity one develops. One begins to realize, and accept the atrocious behavior that one may so easily enact. Case in point; It was recently implied that I sound like a “Rapist”, and thus am likely to be a “Rapist”. This was coming from a friend that I had known for approximately five years. Five years in which I had never made any “rapist” inclinations, but being that I am a male that doesn’t apparently speak the approved dialect/vocabulary. I am now considered a “would be rapist” by her. Being that I have no desire to associate with said context, the friendship is now over.
The reason this is being brought up is the notion that we so readily enact a mask that others may find appreciable, or we hide our true thoughts of each other behind said mask. I had no clue that she had been raped prior, and that I was being continuously judged for “rapey” tendencies. Personally, I don’t need the paranoia that would stem from a continued friendship with said person.
Mainly because I’ve been so far into madness that I’ve gone paranoid to the part where I was afraid to breath, for fear that I was inhaling toxic fumes. Even when I was in broad daylight, in a natural environment while this fear may be true in a smog ridden city. It wasn’t in the context I was in at that time.
Tying back into the main premise, my concept of identity seems so shaky sometimes that I’m not sure which mask to believe. I can readily acknowledge/admit that all the worlds human institutions are constructs that only operate based upon a mutual/shared belief.
The military, banking, industry,…etc they all require a mutual suspension of disbelief that the idea we are working on actually matters. The lauded dollar, only has value because we belief it has value. It’s value could be tied to a “value/life” of every soldier sacrificed to maintain such belief (ie, $1 is 1 soldier’s life), and would anyone really care? It’s not tied to anything concrete, and it doesn’t need to be so to have value. No Gold Standard, or “Oil Standard”…it’s all made up.
The same way our identities are made up, if I wish to be recognized as a veteran. I would have to enlist, and serve. Get a narrative made up about myself, and have it approved by others that are in on the same terms. It is nothing but virtual games, or so it seems. Call up images of Orwell’s 1984, or Bradbury’s Fahrenheit 451….any dystopian story…it all is narrative. And the writer creates, and advertises the narrative.
Our stories are self-concocted, self-narrated, and self-imposed. There is nothing that says you have to be who you are in any given moment. For all I know, I could be a King of France that is also a little bit “crazy”. That the year isn’t 2017 (calendars are also made up). That it could be mere moments from the masquerade where courtiers got lit on fire ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bal_des_Ardents ).
The only reference that we have is ourselves, and our believed history/narrative. And yet psychology seems to want to disown that portion of our lives by saying it is likely false. A lie that is due to self-reporting data, but what I do I know?